AAAARRRRGGGHHH! I got one
this morning.
OH NO! Another one came in
the afternoon! Two in one day!
Twice, less than 12 hours
apart, I had to endure what every job seeker dreads: the rejection email, just
another paper cut to my self-confidence.
Sometimes you get rejection
emails from a company for which you didn’t actually interview with in person.
These robo-rejection emails are generated by the digital HR program that spits
out qualified résumés the way you spit out watermelon seeds.
Sometimes you get rejection
emails from a company you interviewed with in person. In my experience,
however, that’s a pretty rare occurrence. Most of the time companies don’t even
extend you the courtesy of informing you were, well, rejected.
I think that’s a bit rude,
don’t you? I mean, if I’ve taken the time to come to your office (which
sometimes has meant an hour commute or more) and have even taken a test, I
believe I deserve to know if I were chosen or not. But what do I know? My
feelings apparently don’t matter to HR. I’m just an overage, laid-off job
seeker who doesn’t deserve basic human courtesy.
Though to be honest, if you
haven’t heard back from an employer within say, two weeks, you can assume you
were rejected. No email needed.
And to be fair, sometimes I get emails asking me to come in for an interview. Yet so far, that has only led to what seems to be the inevitable rejection email or nothing at all...sounds of crickets chirping...
And to be fair, sometimes I get emails asking me to come in for an interview. Yet so far, that has only led to what seems to be the inevitable rejection email or nothing at all...sounds of crickets chirping...
The wording of the rejection
emails is typically the same: Thank you
for applying…after careful consideration we’ve decided to go with other
candidates…good luck in your future endeavors. Blah…Blah…Blah….
The last part always irks
me. These companies care nary a rat’s patootie for me or any other applicant.
They know they’ve probably just screwed scores of applicants out of a job all
are qualified to do. So why go through the pretense of wishing us luck? It’s
right up there with the lie that they keep our résumés on file. Yeah, I’ll
believe that the day the New York Mets trade for Giancarlo Stanton.
Someday, I'd like to ask a HR person why they don't respond to applicants, even if the applicant came in for an interview. Too many applicants? Don't want to hurt anyone's feelings? Can't be bothered? Knowing HR people, it's unlikely I'd get an honest answer. These are people who routinely lie to workers and are mere tools of upper management.
Someday, I'd like to ask a HR person why they don't respond to applicants, even if the applicant came in for an interview. Too many applicants? Don't want to hurt anyone's feelings? Can't be bothered? Knowing HR people, it's unlikely I'd get an honest answer. These are people who routinely lie to workers and are mere tools of upper management.
Yet I’m of two minds about
rejection emails. Sometimes I think it’s better not to know if you were
rejected. Or why. If I knew why I was rejected, I’m not sure my rapidly
dwindling self-confidence could withstand it.
Because each time I read one
of those rejection emails, doubt and negativity seeps into my psyche: I’m not good enough. Everybody is better
than me. They picked someone who went to a better school. I’m incompetent. I’m
stupid. I’ll never be hired for a job
again. I know I shouldn’t feel that way, that I should fight those damaging
feelings. But it’s getting harder and harder with every rejection email.
Honestly, I’m tired, soul weary of applying for jobs, going on interviews, taking tests…and ultimately getting
rejected. I have rejection fatigue. Not sure I
can bear...one...more...rejection...email. It's understood that rejection is part of any job hunt, but at some point, there has to be some positive reinforcement, like an actual job offer.
When I first conceived this
blog post, I thought about equating my job hunting/rejection experience with my
days in junior high and high school when I was truly one of the most unpopular,
sickly kids in school. (Yeah, I know. Navel gazing at its most self-indulgent,
right? Remember, I have a lot of time on my hands.) Then I thought better of
it. Nobody wants to read (much more) about how my classmates cruelly mocked, excluded, and
ignored me. How my pathetic attempts to be popular only engendered more scorn
from my peers. It was horrible.
Suffice to say that nothing
beams me back to those desolate days in the seventh grade lunchroom when I was
the sad-eyed, lonely little girl no one apparently wanted to befriend than
getting a job rejection email.
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